From Godless In Dixie
[...]People with character impairments are unskilled in practicing empathy. Granted, while many of them likely have zero empathy for others, they are often quite practiced in appearing as if they do. Some have empathy for those whom they consider to be like them, a part of their tribe, but none for anyone they consider to be “the other.” Some of them become aware that their self-absorbed behavior is negatively affecting their relationships and then begin to practice the skill of empathy in order to make positive changes. I think we see this when people change their opinions on homosexuality because someone they love “comes out” to them. Others who are deeply entrenched in their personality will never be able to change, or even see that their behavior is harmful. We see this in the people who abandon the people they pretend to love, because they are not living up to their (God’s) expectations. What they fail to grasp is that no one feels the love when their parents abandon them in the hope that this emotional manipulation will draw them back to God. Love usually feels like love, and this feels like exactly what it is: It is hate masquerading as love.